Act normally in and around the group, be yourself and be honest 'Start from the idea that you are working with normal people. Therefore, do not assume what is called "a clinical attitude" towards the people you work with. You should communicate in an open and empathic way, in which you respond to people with warmth and respect. That is already half the job done. If you then get involved in sports activities with enthusiasm, then you are really on your way'. (professor Wolters) 'They are normal people you are dealing with and they demand to be treated accordingly'. (De Jager, War Child) 'I would not change anything about myself if I were you. People know when you are becoming another person, so don't play-act. In fact, it is best not to take too many things into account, just be honest. Just say it: I'm sorry, but this is how we think about these matters where I come from, and you think differently. Talk freely about these matters and remain yourself'. (Verhaegen) Know you capacities and limitations, accept the mistakes you make and allow yourself space to learn It is certainly important to believe in yourself and your own capacities but you must also recognise your limitations and vulnerabilities. You are allowed to make mistakes, you are allowed to learn from them. Who can expect from you that you know exactly what the customs are and how people interact in Kigali? Nobody is perfect. It is the same with raising children and educating people. Parents frequently do things that are not very wise, everyone makes mistakes. The only thing you can say is: I am doing my best. I love you and I am doing my best. Help me to help you. Allow yourself space to learn. (professor Wolters) | 